Fathers who are present in their child’s life have a very serious role to play. Toddlers are active and as such need much attention and time that is meaningful while their independence develops. Toddlers are quite impressionable. They are beginning to emulate or mimic the adults around them. Fathers need to be cognisant of this and ensure that they not only practice what they preach but also be an instrument of change, acceptance and patience where their toddlers are concerned.

In the eyes of a toddler, dad must be a tower of strength. Dad must be there to lift the child and the bicycle that he just fell off as taking the child and leaving the bicycle will just cause further upset on the part of the child. Fatherly strength and support are needed at all stages in a child’s development so the energetic toddler needs to know that dad can actually catch him when he tries to jump off the table or his high chair.

Father must be there also to reassure children. At this stage of a child’s life, he is uncertain of what pleases which parent. He is also learning what pleases himself and naturally wants to try to achieve more than what is necessary. Toddlers need reassurance from dads that what they do is alright and that dad will help them to fix some little things.

The dad in a toddler’s life must be a disciplinarian who shows love at the same time. Children are now exploring and discovering new things. Daddies must set the tone for what is acceptable from this age. Fathers should  try and lead by examples and must be firm but loving in how they discipline. It is at this stage that children develop a sense of self which really is dictated by the adults in their lives.

Daddies must be patient and understanding. It is no secret that a child wanting to walk home from the store can be quite frustrating but it is discovery time. Be willing to wait until he takes the steps necessary to achieve his goal. Yes, you have things to do, places to be and people to see but just remember it may take a bit longer to get there. So, if the child wants to pick up his toys by himself or wants to help you carry a book, let him.

Yes, we know that all the above may not be possible all the time but it sure is worth a try. Toddlers are special children who are now more active and energetic that the perfect baby you held your arms for months. Toddlers are developing a sense of independence and that should be encouraged. Your patience will be challenged over and over but hold strong and be assured that the rewards are much greater than your present sorrows. Finally, when you discipline a toddler, do so with love and maintain your stance; repeat procedure several times. The lessons learnt at this stage will contribute to life lessons.